Is ‘punching up’ a good thing when it comes to online dating?

Want to succeed in the online dating game? Maybe all you need is a healthy injection of confidence.

A recent study by the University of Michigan has found that on average, women on dating apps send messages to men 23% more attractive than them, with men taking it a bit further sending messages to those they deem to be more attractive than them by 26%.

The study looked at messages sent by almost 200,000 dating app users in New York, Boston, Chicago and Seattle during January 2014. You may be asking, what does this have to do with ‘punching up’?

Well co-author of the study, Dr Elizabeth Bruch, concluded that; “even if the probability of getting a reply when you are messaging a more desirable partner is low, it is not zero." And messaging is the key to online dating success; the study also found, particularly if you’re a woman.

"Women have much higher reply rates to their first messages than men: men’s average reply rate is around 17%, whereas for women often more than half of their messages can get a response. So women can afford to be more aspirational than they are," Brunch explained.

So if you’re a lady and you’re eyeing off someone who you think is out of your league – get typing and if you’re a man, don’t get disheartened - there’s no harm in pinging off a message and seeing how you go. You really do never know your luck in the big city.

Also now you know, if your inbox is filling up, it's likely whoever is blowing up your phone thinks you're attractive - maybe even more attractive than they think they are. So there's really no excuse not to reply.

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