What is orbiting and how to avoid getting drawn in
Another day - another dating term to get your head around.
The last week has seen the term ‘orbiting’ being coined - because simply being stood-up was not
This phrase was first flagged by website the Man Repeller, and it’s being heralded as the second cousin of ghosting.
In case you need a refresher course of the ever changing dating lexicon - ghosting is a term that was first used in 2006 (I know we can’t believe it either) and it refers to when a relationship doesn’t break down or come to an end - rather a person literally just disappears from the face of the earth. Leaving you to assume they were no longer interested in dating you or maybe they in fact died. It’s a toss of the coin.
Now, enter ‘orbiting’. Anna Iovine from Man Repeller explains this new phrase using the below anecdote.
“I started dating a man — let’s call him Tyler — a few months ago. We met on Tinder, naturally, and after our first date, we added each other on Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram. After our second date, he stopped answering my texts. I soon gathered it was over, but in the ensuing days, I noticed he was watching every single one of my Instagram and Snapchat stories — and was often one of the first people to do so.
“A couple of weeks later, after still no correspondence, I decided to unfollow/unfriend Tyler from all three social platforms. On Facebook and Snapchat, that meant we could no longer see each other’s content, but on Instagram, no such luck.
“It’s now been over two months since we’ve spoken, and Tyler not only still follows me on Instagram, he looks at every single one of my stories. This is not ghosting. This is orbiting.”
Basically, orbiting is only occurring due to the rise of social media and it appears that unlike ghosting it comes with a more painful reminder that this person didn’t in fact die - rather they’re just not interested enough to talk to you ever again - but they’re still okay with stalking you virtually. Great right?
So how do you prevent orbiting? Well this is a toughie. Our best bet would be to not rush into following each other on the socials. We know this will be hard for the millennials out there - but having a few less followers may be better in the long run - as opposed to having to put up with being trapped in a terrestrial tussle.
Are you being orbited? Let us know in the comments below: