How to break the ice without using cheesy pick up lines

It's one of the key moments in any dating experience: the opening line. For some, breaking the ice comes very naturally and the whole process can be fun and flirtatious. For others it can be quite daunting and scary.

With so much riding on first impressions with a new love interest, it's vital for you have a plan for breaking the ice. Hopefully this will enable you to ease into a conversation without using cheesy or awkward pick up lines.

So for those of you needing a helping hand with breaking the ice - try following these guidelines:

Be polite and respectful

Don't invade their personal space

Introduce yourself

Look them in the eye

Ask them about themselves

Use their name in conversation

Share some personal information

Be fun and lighthearted

Compliment them

Avoid making any sexual references

Avoid constantly checking your phone/ watch

Don't try this when you've had too much to drink (it's never a good look!)

The key in all of this is to be yourself. You want to start out how you mean to go on. Your best chance at making a good first impression is to be honest and natural. Trying too hard to come up with witty opening lines will either completely paralyse you or make you come across as desperate and needy.

Instead, keep it simple. Be polite and ask questions. Show interest, praise them and share something about yourself. This will show that you're genuine and have a quality character that is worth getting to know.

John Aiken, RSVP dating and relationship expert, as seen on the hit show Married At First Sight, and on Ch 9’s Today show, Today Extra and A Current Affair. He is a best-selling author, regularly appears on radio and in magazines, runs a private practice in Sydney, and is a sought after speaker. (

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