Fake it till you make it – how to use body language to exude confidence
There are plenty of singles out there that can find the dating process daunting and overwhelming. For many, they can be shy and uncertain as to how to approach a new love interest and make a strong first impression. One of the most important ways to hit the ground running is to present as confident and self-assured. If you’re not particularly good at this, then it’s time to follow the age old principal - fake it till you make it. Use your body language to exude confidence, and in time you’ll start to feel comfortable with being self-assured.
Follow these 5 body language tips to increase your confidence when out on a date: 1) Be playful, smile and laugh It may seem very simple – but smile at your love interest and be light and happy. Be playful with them, laugh and give them a sense that you’re relaxed and fun. Every now and then, touch them on the arm or hand and this will show a cheeky confident side to your character. 2) Have good posture When you’re out with a love interest it’s vital that you stand tall and display a really strong posture. Forget about hiding or slouching – force yourself to lift your chin up, push your chest out and let your light shine. 3) Give strong eye contact When your partner is talking to you, make an effort to look them straight in the eye. Whether it feels comfortable or not, you want to send a message that you like them and that they’re important to you. 4) Stand close to them It might seem a little awkward initially, but if you’re standing together make sure that you move in close. You want to invade their personal space rather than step back and retreat. In time you’ll get more comfortable being in close, and this will increase your overall sense of intimacy. 5) Be affectionate You don’t need to smother them with affection, but be prepared to initiate touch so that they feel desired. Take their hand, put your arm around them when you’re walking together, sit next to them on the couch, and pull them close to you when you’re standing in public.
John Aiken, RSVP dating and relationship expert, as seen on the hit show Married At First Sight, and on Ch 9’s Today show, Today Extra and A Current Affair. He is a best-selling author, regularly appears on radio and in magazines, runs a private practice in Sydney, and is a sought after speaker. (www.johnaiken.com.au)