Valentine’s Day still loved, but many see it as a test

Valentine’s Day is still loved by many, despite some feeling as though it’s a way that their partner is testing them and their relationship.

A survey of more than 1000 RSVP members found that while 39% love the day when asked if they thought the day of love was a test the majority responded with a resounding yes.

Users were also asked what they liked about the day, with one saying: “It’s a nice excuse to make some effort to show your partner what they mean to you.”

Another added: “It's a day where you can tell or be told that you're loved.”

However, not everyone is impressed by February 14th, with 17% of survey respondents believing the day is unnecessary and 8% downright hate it. A bulk of people also sit on the fence, with 34% of respondents not being bothered by the day.

Of those who aren’t getting that lovin’ feeling when it comes to Valentine’s Day, on why they didn’t like the day, one said: “The expectation of spending a lot of money on flowers or dinner to prove your love.” Adding: “It also puts pressure on people financially.”

Another user noted: “Some people get too materialistic and forget the real meaning of sharing and showing their affection.”

In the lead-up to February 14th, RSVP sat down with dating and relationship psychologist, John Aiken, to discuss how those single and taken should approach the day. Aiken explained that Valentine’s Day should be a day where regardless of relationship status, people get outside of their comfort zone and see where the day takes them.

“This Valentine’s Day it doesn’t matter if you have a date or not because the bottom line is it’s a great day to try and push yourself out there,” he says.

“If you are single with no prospects, do what you can to shake it up, take a deep breath and ask that person out that you’ve always wanted to ask out. If you do have a date, make it special, it’s Valentine’s day, it’s a great time to share something new and novel together.”

When asked how Aiken feels about Valentine’s Day, he replied: “I love Valentine’s Day. I’m in the world of relationships and dating, and I think any day that encourages couples to come together or

singles to get out there and ask someone out, I think it’s fantastic.

“So, use the day, get excited about it and do something special,” he added.

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Key Findings:

  • 39% of RSVP users surveyed love Valentine’s Day

  • 34% said Valentine’s Day “Doesn't really bother me”

  • 17% said: “I feel it's a day that's not really necessary”

  • 8% hate Valentine’s Day

About RSVP:

RSVP is Australia’s most successful online dating platform. Nielsen research shows 1 in 3 dates found online happen via RSVP.

The RSVP platform is designed to help singles find genuine matches for real dates and authentic connections with other singles who are serious about dating. Australians who use RSVP as their only online dating site found a long-term relationship, got married or entered into a de-facto relationship through the site. Across the site and mobile apps, more than 1,200 new members sign up and over 40,000 conversations happen every day.

Launched in 1997, RSVP pioneered online dating in Australia. Over its 19-year history, RSVP has helped nearly 5 million Australians meet other singles for dating, romance and relationships.

John Aiken’s bio:

John Aiken is a dating and relationship psychologist, as seen on the hit show Married At First Sight, and on Ch 9’s Today show, Today Extra and A Current Affair. He is a best-selling author, regularly appears on radio and in magazines, runs a private practice in Sydney, and is a sought-after speaker. (

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