One of the keys to getting a good relationship is knowing when to commit to someone or when let them go and move on. Being clear as to whether or not your date has got long-term potential. It’s not a problem if you’re just looking for a casual encounter, but if you want something with substance, then you must be a good judge of this.
So how do you tell if your date is a keeper?
There are 6 tell-tale signs that your date is worth hanging onto long term:
1) Reliable and trustworthy
This is one of the most significant signs that you’ve got a keeper on your hands! If your date is someone who is honest and walks the walk, follows through with promises and is reliable, then hold on tight! Relationships can go through many challenges, and you need a firm foundation of trust to get you through these tough times.
2) Same relationship expectations
Don’t go any further with this date if they’re not on the same page with you in terms of commitment and expectations. If you want to get serious and they just want to play and have some fun, then it’s not going to work. You want someone who is comfortable with long-term relationships and is excited about having a future with you.
3) Romantic feelings
You know you’re onto a good thing when your date is able to express positive feelings for you. They don’t need to go over the top too early on, but you want to get a sense that they are keen on you and have strong romantic feelings. These will only get more intense the more time you spend together.
4) Strong sexual chemistry
It’s ideal if you feel a strong sexual chemistry with this person. If you’re going to have a long-term relationship with them, then you want to feel sparks, attraction, lust and desire. And if you’ve already slept together, then there also needs to be a strong sexual compatibility.
5) Good communicator
It’s absolutely vital that your date is a great communicator. Someone who can bring up issues softly, say sorry, see both sides to an argument, and move on from conflict. They need to be able to make you feel special and appreciated with compliments and expressions of gratitude, as well as ask you questions and take an interest. And finally, it’s always great when they can socialize with any of your friends and family and be comfortable working a room.
6) Quality friendships
You are who you mix with, and if your new date has quality friends then this is a great sign of long-term potential. After all, these are the people that are important in their life, and likely be the ones that you’re going to spend plenty of time with moving forward. So a great social network is something to get really excited about!
John Aiken, RSVP dating and relationship psychologist, as seen on the hit show Married At First Sight, and on Ch 9’s Today show, Today Extra and A Current Affair. He is a best-selling author, regularly appears on radio and in magazines, runs a private practice in Sydney, and is a sought after speaker. (www.johnaiken.com.au)