Am I a catch?

Am I a catch? I’ve created a great social media presence, but I’m scared I’m boring in real life.

Many singles out there today will be consumed by social media. Whether it’s Snapchat or Facebook, Twitter or Instagram – there are so many platforms that allow you the opportunity to present your brand and image to the world.

In theory, it should enhance your chances of finding love. But for some of you, the life you lead on social media may be false, and doesn’t accurately reflect the real you. This can leave you wondering “Am I really a good catch, or am I pretty boring in real life?”

When considering your overall appeal to other singles, you need to step back and think about how authentic you are in the way you live your life and interact with others. This will determine if you’re a catch, not how many likes you get on social media.

Your level of boring will correspond to what you do away from social media.

So consider right now how you live your life. The friends that you hang around with, how you treat them, the things you do together. Think about your interests, your work life, your level of health and fitness, the holidays you take, your personal goals, and your involvement with family.

These are just some of the elements that you need to consider when evaluating if you’re a catch or not? Sure a good social media presence will get eyes on you. But it’s what you really do away from that, which tells the true story of who you are. Authentic people are interesting, fake ones are not.

John Aiken, RSVP dating and relationship psychologist, as seen on the hit show Married At First Sight, and on Ch 9’s Today show, Today Extra and A Current Affair. He is a best-selling author, regularly appears on radio and in magazines, runs a private practice in Sydney, and is a sought after speaker. (

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