The difference between a date follow-up call and a booty call

Dating in today's world can involve all sorts of different agendas and expectations. For instance, many singles are looking for a long-term relationship but on the other hand, there are also singles that only want to have fun and keep things casual. This is where the booty call comes in. Sex with absolutely no ties or expectations of commitment. 

So... what's the difference then between the genuine date follow-up call from a serious potential love interest and the booty call?

 


The date follow-up call:
This type of call will be very different in it's purpose and action compared to the booty call. The date follow-up call will occur at a reasonable time of the day or night - certainly not after 9.30pm. It will be a phone call not a text, and the person doing this will be happy to talk in depth about what's being going on in their life. They're also very interested in you. There's no sexualised talk during this call - it's respectful and polite, and they'll be sober and clear thinking. Its purpose is to show interest and organise another catch-up. It's about organising a proper date out in public - it will be in a setting where you can talk and have more time to get to know each other. 

The booty call:
In contrast, the booty call is a whole different story! This is a text or phone call for the purpose of arranging a meeting to have sex with you. These calls can often happen late at night or early in the morning (e.g. 11pm - 3am) and the person will often be intoxicated. There's no back and forth about personal lives. They're not interested in getting to know you - they just want to meet up and get naked. The content of the call is only focused on arranging sex. They will suggest a meeting that occurs in your home or theirs - not in public. 

Now this may seem straightforward, but sometimes when we're interested in someone and hope they're also interested in a relationship - we can view things through rose-coloured glasses and put a positive spin on the booty call, hoping it is a sign of something more serious (or will at least turn into something more substantial). Therefore, it's just good to be aware of the difference between the two types of calls and keep a level head. 

So ask yourself, "what do you want from your dating experience?" Is it serious and long-term or is it light and casual with no strings attached?  Once you know this, then you can judge how you want to handle the date follow-up call or the booty call.


John Aiken, RSVP dating and relationship expert, as seen on Ch 9's series Married At First Sight, and the ABC doco Making Couples Happy. He is also the author of the book Making Couples Happy: How science can help get relationships back on track (www.johnaiken.com.au)

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